Marital Delay or Distress | Spiritual Root Cause Analysis

As we, Alex & Christine Wesigye celebrate our 10th Marriage Anniversary, we would like to share some Biblical Truths on the causes of delayed marriages or Marital Distress and their Remedial mechanisms thereof.

These were identified after a systematic study of the WORD of GOD, The HOLY BIBLE.

✍🏿 Spiritual Root Causes of Marital Issues

Sins and their consequential marital issues.

1️⃣ Mistreating widows and orphans (Exo 22:22)

Marital Issue: Widowed women, death of husbands, Fatherless children (Exo 22:24).

2️⃣ Disobeying God, breaking HIS statutes, Commandments, Not believing in GOD, Not trusting in GOD’s saving Power (Deut 28:14-15; Ps 78:17-20,22,32,56,57)

Marital Issues: 

✅You make arrangements to marry a lady but another man takes her (Deut 28:30). 

✅Stingy & selfish husband/wife (Deut 28:54,56). 

✅No weddings/marriage ceremonies (Ps 78:63).

3️⃣ Rape (of an unmarried girl) (Deut 22:28-29). If a man raped a lady, he was compelled to pay bride price and marry her by force because he had disgraced her, thus no one would marry her. 

4️⃣ Pre-marital Sex (fornication) (Exo 22:16). If a man who committed fornication was compelled to pay her bride price and marry her.

How many have you lain with? 

The purpose of sex is for consummating a marriage (Gen 29:21). if one engages in rape or fornication, he/she consequentially seals a marriage covenant through that sexual transaction. Unless it is dealt with, he/she is liable to face some marital issues. 

The soul tie formed becomes a run-way through which spirit spouses manifest to hinder or cause distress in a marriage.

5️⃣ Adultery (2Sam11:4;12:9; Job 31:9)

Marital Issue: Wife taken by another man (2 Sam 12:11; 16:21,22; Job 31:10)

6️⃣ Murder (even by proxy) 2Sam 11:15,17,24; 12:9; 2Chro 21:4,13

Marital Issues: 

✅Wife given to another man (2 Sam 12:11; 16:21,22). 

✅A great plague on wives (2 Chro 21:14).

7️⃣ Evil marriage covenants (marrying non-believers) (2Chr 21:6)

Marital Issue: Captivity of wives (2Chro 21:17).

8️⃣ Lying/Fear (Gen 12:13; 20:2)

Marital Issue: Wife taken by another man (Gen 12:14-15; 20:2).

9️⃣ Despising/dishonoring a husband (Esther 1:12; 2Sam 6:16-23)

Marital Issue: 

✅Disposed as a wife, replaced by another woman (Esther 1:19; 2:17). 

✅ Barrenness (2Sam 6:16-23).

🔟 Haughty, Proud Ladies, walking with outstretched necks, glancing wantonly with their eyes, mincing along as they go, tinkling with their feet (Isa 3:16)

Marital Issue: Scarcity of men for marriage (Isa 4:1)

1️⃣1️⃣ Abortion, Child sacrifice (Jer 7:31)

Marital Issue: No Weddings/Marriage ceremonies (Jer 7:34).

1️⃣2️⃣Greedy for unjust gain, dealing falsely (Jer 8:10)

Marital Issue: Wife taken by another man (Jer 8:10).

1️⃣3️⃣Idolatry (2Chro 21:6,11,12,13; 29:6,7; 30:7; Jer 15:6; 16:11-12; 25:6)

Marital Issues: 

✅A great plague on wives (2 Chro 21:14). 

✅Wives in captivity (2Chro 29:9). Widowhood, death of husbands (Jer 15:8). 

✅ No weddings/marriages ceremonies (Jer 16:9; 25:10).

1️⃣4️⃣ Persecuting a Servant of GOD (Amos 7:10-12)

Marital Issue: Wife becomes a Prostitute (Amos 7:17).

1️⃣5️⃣ Quarrelsome wife (Prov 21:9; 25:24)

Marital Issue: Separation, Divorce (Prov 21:9; 24:24).

1️⃣6️⃣ You reap what you sow (Gal 6:7; Gen 8:22)

If you broke someone’s heart, you broke someone’s marriage; you stole someone’s spouse, you contributed to someone’s marital delay or marital woes, then you will obviously reap accordingly. And likewise if you promote(d) and support(ed) people to get married or have done good for the success of other marriages, shall reap accordingly.

1️⃣7️⃣ A number of Foundational Anomalies like Dishonoring Parents (Exodus 20:12), Forced/child marriages, Tears of Wives (Mal 2:13-14), Tears of firstborns, Iniquities on the Thrones of Husband-hood & Wife-hood which we deal with in the Marriage Watch Program.

The marital issues👆🏿manifest if you or someone in your family tree has committed the respective causes/sins 👆🏿. (Exo 34:7)

💡What To DO

Deal with the cause not the issue/symptom i.e with the roots not the leaves. 

According to 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

1️⃣ Confess the cause (sin or work of the Flesh).

2️⃣ Ask GOD to forgive you the Cause(sin or work of the flesh).

3️⃣ Ask GOD to cleanse you of the Unrighteousness (consequential marital issue, situation).  Ask GOD to remove the situation/Affliction. Ask GOD to cleanse you by the BLOOD of JESUS.

4️⃣ Rebuke the spirit that has been enforcing the situation.

5️⃣ Renounce the cause, sin, works of the flesh and avoid the triggers of that sin.

if symptoms persist, add you may add fasting, offering, Praying in Tongues, Songs of Worship et.c as the HOLY SPIRIT will guide, then re-do steps 1️⃣-5️⃣ 

If symptoms persist;

6️⃣ Do a Bloodline Cleansing in the Courts Of Heaven. This is for dealing with generational Iniquity, Afflictions & Infirmities.

7️⃣ Raise or join a Regular Altar and Abide In the LORD. Involve a prayer partner or an anointed minister of GOD. Set a time for the Altar & keep it, Be disciplined.

Conclusion

Deal with 1 cause/sin at a time, systematically from step 1️⃣ to the end, confess the cause/sin and seek GOD's forgiveness, then Ask GOD to remove the consequential symptoms (Marital issues), Rebuke the enforcing Spirits of the Marital Issues, then Ask the HOLY SPIRIT fill you the gap left by the demonic spirit.  Watchout for the triggers of the Cause/Sin. You need to raise an Altar (Abide in the LORD) so that your answer finds you in the divine placement.

#Alex&ChristineWesigye@10 

#10th Marriage Anniversary

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The Wesigyes' 10th Marriage Anniversary Reflections

Alex, do you in the presence of God and before these witnesses, promise to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity, this woman whose right hand you now hold?

Do you promise to be to her in all things a true and faithful husband, to cling unto her and to her alone as long as life shall last? Do you? (Alex, answers I do.)

Do you take her to be your wedded wife as long as you both shall live? (Alex answers, I do.)

Christine, do you in the presence of God and these witnesses, promise to love and cherish, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity, this man whose right hand you now hold?

Do you promise to be to him in all things a true and faithful wife, to cling unto him and him alone, as long as life shall last? Do you? (Christine, answers I do.) 

Do you take him to be your lawfully wedded husband as long as you both shall live? (Christine, answers, I do.)

Christine and i exchanged those vows on Friday, August 28, 2015 at Watoto Church Down Town. The LORD has blessed us with 5 Arrows, 4 Girls & 1 Boy.

As we celebrate a decade of Alex & Christine Wesigye, I would like to share some reflections of the 10 years of Marriage, the things that have contributed to the success of and sustained our marriage amidst the haggardness of life.

1️⃣Premarital Counseling. Our local church told us to first go through premarital counseling as one of the requirements to be wedded, which we did for about 14 Weeks, initially we did it just for formality purposes but we were eventually blown away by the sessions’ content, the principles which later on became pivotal for our marriage as long as we applied them.

We attended both Group counselling and One-On-One Sessions.

We also looked out for couples that we admired and visited their homes for counseling and guidance, and we're glad that they shared their hearts with us.

2️⃣Marrieds’ Cell. Towards the end of the premarital counseling sessions, we were attached to a marrieds' cell, and started attending before our wedding. We were thrilled by the stories those married couples shared and were encouraged that we would not be alone.

After our Wedding, it was easier for us to blend in the cell since we were already attending and this time we also had rings on our fingers. Actually the marrieds’ cell became our routine outing plot as a couple.

3️⃣ Marriage Mentor Couple. More so at the end of the premarital counseling sessions, we were attached to a Marriage Mentor Couple. Words can not express the impact the couple has on our marriage. We had a schedule to meet and be mentored by the Couple right from how to go about traditional marriage, Wedding, Parenting  upto Marriage & FamilyLife. May GOD Bless Victor & Mercy Lukwago.

The Marrieds’ Cell and the Mentor Couple became a Support (System) Community for our marriage.

In the marrieds’ cell couples freely share the challenges they are going through, how they were solving it or solved it and then you realize that you are not alone, or your issue is small, then stop whining but become courageous. The Marrieds’ Cell is a safe space for couples to freely share their vulnerability and also a place of prayer and encouragement.

4️⃣ Conflict Resolution Mechanism. Conflicts in marriage are normal and natural in the development of relationships. Conflict doesn’t destroy marriages, It is the inability to resolve a conflict that is so destructive.

As a couple, we apply the Principles of Matt 18:15-17.

When a matter arises, we talk about the issue just the two of us.

If the talk does not bear fruit, either of us is at liberty to involve a third party (not relative/friend to either of us but a neutral person). We agreed to make all referrals to our Mentor Couple. And it has worked for us. We have filed a number of cases against each other and issues resolved. And recently we added the Leaders of the Marrieds Ministry to our referral system. Christine is free to report me to them and so am I. And we are comfortable with that accountability mechanism. But as an appeal mechanism, should either of us feel unsatisfied with the process, we’re free to engage a spiritual dad or the family pastor. Christine and I can attest that this mechanism has proven effective with many fruits.

See a Proposed Church Marital Conflict Resolution Policy

5️⃣ Couple Altar.

It should not surprise you that many couples are still struggling to pray together.

I can not ever emphasize the importance of Couple Prayer time or the Marriage Altar. The Couple Altar is the Mother Altar of the Family. Whereas you may have a regular vibrant Family Altar, without a marriage Altar, there is no covering for the Family Altar. Remember the anointing flows from the top. The good thing with the Couple Altar is that you tackle real issues, which you wouldn’t raise on the Family Altar. So a Couple, we have our regular Marriage Altar, and the LORD has kept us knit together because we pray together.

Conclusion

Whereas there are a number of contributing factors e.g how we handle Sex, Finances, Phones, Friends and In-Laws, the 5 above are game changers for us as couple.

#Alex&ChristineWesigye@10

#10thMarriageAnniversary

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